I remember when I got diagnosed I was quick to take action. I let myself cry but I knew I had to look after myself. Seeing a councillor along with guidance and advice from other people was the stepping stones I needed to steer me in the right direction. I took on board everything I was told and put it into my own practice. There was no way I was going to let a cancer diagnosis bring me down. Instead I chose to rise above cancer. I used what life has thrown at me to my advantage and I changed.
Here are my top 5 tips on how I’ve learnt to lead a more positive lifestyle…
♡Make a choice
Each and everyone of us has a choice in life. You can either choose to let situations wear you down and make you into someone you are not, resulting in unhappiness. Or you can step back and realise that this isn’t how you want to live/go on. It may take some time to figure out and learn the next steps but as long as you make that choice!
Having gratitude in life will not only build your happiness, it’ll increase positivity. You’ll start feeling a greater love for life, you’ll become closer to your friends and family, it’ll definitely boost your mood and the tough times you’re going through won’t feel so bad. If that means forcing yourself to sit down for 10 minutes each day and write a few things you’re grateful for in life, it’ll definitely be worth it. (I did this and it starts to come naturally). I also realised having so much gratitude has helped me pick out the good from a bad situation.
Drop the resentment. Forgive others and yourself! Believe me, I know how hard this can be! But I’ve really worked through it over time. When you are moving forward in your life it is important to not take your past with you. It’s important to not hold onto those grudges. Just let go. Forgive others for how they’ve treated you in the past. This doesn’t mean what they’ve done is right and they don’t have to be your bestie, but I know we all make mistakes along the way.We are only human! You don’t actually have to personally tell them you forgive them. As long as you feel at peace with it in yourself. Going through life civil is so much more fulfilling than carrying so much anger and sadness. This also stands for forgiving yourself for anything you’ve done. How do we learn if we don’t make mistakes?
♡Do what you love
Seriously!! Figure out what it is you’re interested in and just do it! Don’t let fear get into your head and stop you. Don’t over think things or care what others might think of you. When you create/do something you’re passionate in, life is so much more exciting. I was so scared to start this blog, no joke. I was worried that no one will read it, but if some people don’t want to then that’s fine they don’t have to! But it brings me so much joy writing and sharing so here we are!
♡Surround yourself with positivity
Let go of any negativity in your life. Realise what isn’t fulfilling you and don’t take it on. Surround yourself with uplifting, positive people. Life is always so much more joyful with happy people around you. Try and start your days on a positive note. Whether that be going for a morning walk, waking up and writing something in your journal, eating a yummy breakfast or listening to a podcast. Think positive!
“How are you always so positive and happy with what you’ve been through?” is a question I’m asked quite a lot. To be honest I could have easily let this diagnosis consume me, break me down or send me into a depressed state. It’s something that can be so easily done. But I made that choice and I did the work, and seriously happiness is just a given to me now! I have a heart that’s beating, legs that can carry me wherever I want to go, beautiful friends and family and I live in the best place on earth… How can I not be happy!? This doesn’t mean I don’t have days where I’m upset, because believe me I have those! I ain’t no robot.
Having said all this, it isn’t going to be easy. I 100% know it’s hard. I have consistently worked on these things for 2.5 years. I knew I needed to do it in order to heal, and live a happier life despite what I’m going through. But I literally cannot stress it enough just how important it is for you to make that choice and to work on these to live a more peaceful life. Seriously guys, what have you got to lose!? No journey is easy, there will be set backs and tears. But you just gotta get up, dust off your hands and keep on going.
P.s. I just realised how many times I’ve wrote the word positive through out this blog post… it’s a great word and the best way to live okaaay! Haha